Spending Quality Time with Your Kids
To give children quality time is like giving them a slice of your life. I remember growing up in Haiti, we used to gather around a bond fire every night to hear the adults telling stories, proverbs, moral tales, giving us wisdoms and helping the us becoming more discern.
Real quality time means to give kids your undivided attention. Nothing else should be matter. I read somewhere that quality time is a powerful communicator of emotional love, because great quality time may require good hours.
In today’s hurried world, many parents live in houses with filled with technology but have empty love tanks. Kids sometimes can simply feel like they are part of their parent stuff collections. Many busy parents need to slow down and take time to love on their kids. Take time to give them focused attention.
Be There, Really There
The key to having quality conversation is to be a great active listener. The following are some steps that I use in the classroom to communicate with my teenagers.
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1. Maintain eye contact: This will help keeps you focus on the subject at hand and keep the child mind from wandering. (Full attention)
2. Don’t multitask when listening to your child: remember quality time is giving someone your undivided attention.
3. Observe body language: tears, eye movement, trembling hands…
4. Listen for feelings: be an empathetic listener, probe and confirm what you have heard. Avoid interrupting him or her.
I hope these tips can enhance your dealing with kids and eventually learn to talk to each other instead of a screaming match.
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